Today is officially the 17th day of my singledom. I wish I could sit here and tell you all how WONDERFUL it is and that i’m doing fabulous. However, I am not. I did go out with friends a couple days ago and that helped a TON.
*So when going through heartbreak, lean on friends. Most definitely. They’re your friends, they’ve been there, they will help and hopefully buy you alcohol.*
Now, I can’t tell you the last time i’ve been single. I was probably 16. Because I met my ex husband 3 days after my 17th birthday, so…Yeah its been a very long time. I’m not used to this extra head space and not having someone to think about and worry about. Run on sentences, I know. Forgive me. It’s too quiet, but at the same time I live with my mom so its sometimes aggravating. I’m almost 30 and I live with my mom. FAIL!! Anywho….
17 days. For some reason the last two days have been rough. I cry sometimes and I don’t want to do anything but sleep. And thank god for my forever faithful companion, mcgee (the cat), because he refuses to let me sleep in. I have a reason to get up even if it is just to feed him. After some friendly advice, it’s time to peel my butt off the floor and move on to the phase where I start doing some stuff for myself. I have a new job that i’m starting friday. That will help. And I think making money will help to make myself feel better. So phase 2 is slowly in progress.
Heartbreak blows. We all know what its like. But it’s easier when there’s a new love in the picture, which i don’t have. I won’t have for a long time, if at all. I need to focus on myself and figure out what I want. But being alone sucks. I guess being alone with your own place is a little easier, because you can cry all day and night and there’s no one to be bugged by it. Or you can not eat or eat a shit ton of ice cream and no one’s there to judge. I don’t know if its better or worse that I have to hold myself together most of the time.
So anyone else going through this. Step 1) lean on friends and cry a lot. Get it out. It sucks but eventually you can semi function again. Step 2) Start doing something for you. Think baby steps, as annoying as it is.
I know what its like to just want to sleep it all away. But eventually it won’t hurt so much. You just have to peel yourself off the floor and slowly do things. Anything more than getting out of bed in the beginning is fantastic. Go you! Moving forward will hurt at first. Let it hurt. It will make you stronger….
I promise.